Flirting Tips For Guys: Flirting with Women

Even though men are usually seen as the 'hunters', women have a lot wider array of flirting gestures. Here are some flirting tips for guys, to even the odds! Use your body language to your advantage, and learn how to flirt with women you desire.

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Flirting tips for Guys

What attracts women?

One of the most important things women are attracted to is confidence. A man that feels at ease and comfortable, is sexy to women. So how do you portray confidence?

  • Personal hygiene. Have a hair cut that fits you. Take a shower before you go. Wash your hair. Brush your teeth. Use a little (a little!) cologne if you like.
  • Wear comfortable clothes. If you wear clothes that fit you well, and you feel at ease in, it will show. So if you are not a 'suit-n-tie' guy, and you wear one anyway, it will show that you are not really comfortable.
  • Watch your body posture. Stand tall. Make sure your back is straight, and pull your shoulders back. This will broaden your chest, and make you look stronger.
  • Make eye contact. When talking to other people (even if they are not your objects of desire) make sure you make eye contact. People who are not confident shy away from making eye contact. If this means you... practice in a safe environment (at school, the mall, on the street, etc) until you can maintain eye contact. But please, don't stare!
  • Have a territory. Confident people take up more space. They stand or sit wider, put personal belongings on the bar, really own the space their in. Be aware of this.
  • But most importantly... be yourself! There's no use attracting women that would only like a fake you. And it's much harder to portray confidence when you're acting. Unless you're Johnny Depp of course.

Now that you're sending out the message that you're a confident, it's time to find a woman that you like. The first signal to send out is trying to make eye contact with her. If she holds eye contact with you longer than normal, she might be interested. If this followed by lowering of her eyes, she is more than interested.

Looking away to the left or right is usually not a good sign. Don't feel bad about it... it doesn't necessarily mean that you aren't attractive. She may simply not be 'on the market'.

If you have eye contact, give her a slight smile to show that you are interested in her, and then maintain eye contact until she breaks it. If she signals interest back, by making eye contact again and smiling, it's time to approach her!

Maintain your body posture! Don't slouch as you walk her way, keep your head straight and your arms near your body...

You Are Da Man! Believe it, and you'll be it.

Ok, think you had enough flirting tips for guys already? Nooooo.... now it's time...

Time to Talk to Her

Now is the time to deliver your opening line to her. If you have spent hours honing down your opening sentence... forget it. Smart and witty opening lines may have you think you sound smart and witty... at her end the BS meter will go waaaaay up!

Keep it simple! It's much better to just say who you are, and explain that you'd like to talk to her. So, a simple "Hi, I'm Sam." (if your name is Sam of course), and "Is it ok if we talk?" can do wonders. No big subjects for now... leave discussing Nietzsche for another time. Just try to learn more about her... what she does for a living, what she likes to do in her free time, if she's there with friends, stuff like that.

As you talk, focus your eyesight on the triangle between her eyes and her mouth, and point your feet toward her. Your body language will show that you're really interested in what she says.

Don't forget: be yourself! Be honest. If you're not a brain surgeon, don't imply that you are. Women are especially sensitive lie detectors, and this will push them away.

Mirroring Her Movements

Be aware of her body movements, and try to mimic her movements. So if she takes a sip of her drink, you take a sip of her drink. If she leans forward, you lean forward. From your end, this may feel fake... Don't worry. Most people are not aware of their own body movements anyway.

Mirroring her movements is remarkable effective... most people are naturally attracted to people who are like themselves. And if you mimic her movements, you basically give her that.

"Moooove closer... move your body real close until I..."

Always show respect for her personal space when you speak to her. Watch her body language. If your connecting, her body will tell you... she'll give you a lot of eye contact, her pupils will dialate (not always easy to see in dark bars, though), and there are lots of other body language hints she may give you:

  • Shaking her hair back
  • Touching your hand or leg (or back as she walks past you, coming back from the 'little girls room')
  • Looking up with her head tilted down
  • Point her arms or legs towards you
  • Slightly opening her mouth, wettening her lips
  • Lots of smiling of course! :-)
  • Moving closer to you (leave it up to her though!)

Her body language will tell you when she feels comfortable enough for you to move closer. This may be a good time to slowly move in for a kiss. If she feels the same way, she'll meet you half way. If she doesn't, just move your mouth to her ear and whisper that you really like her (it's always great to have a plan B, so you don't look like a moron!).

With these flirting tips for guys you stand a much better chance of attracting women than most other guys.

You have body language on your side!

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